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Discussion in 'Guy Talk!' started by Aoife Mendes, Apr 17, 2017.

  1. Aoife Mendes

    Aoife Mendes New Member

    Apr 17, 2017
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    okay so here is,
    I was at a party this weekend, and I went a little crazy with the alcohol and had wayyyy too much (rookie mistake). anyways, earlier in the night, I had been snogging a boy that has liked me for quite some time. It was really good from what I can remember, but that's when my memory blacks out. next thing I know, I wake up on the floor, vomiting whilst my friend is keeping me on my side and pushing my hair out my face.

    embarrassing story short, I'm taken home and put to bed. the next day, I have a hangover from hell, but so do the rest of my friends so we take it easy. I still don't remember the night before, but according to my friends I snogged the same boy again more than once.

    the day after that, I go to school and see other people from the party. here's where things get sticky. according to them, I continued snogging the boy for the rest of the night, up until the point where I collapsed and he took me outside to lie down. apparently I was in and out of consciousness, but I kept saying his name, so he continued to kiss me, even when I wasn't responding. whenever my friends tried to help me, he would push them away and not let them near me to help, despite another boy pulling him off me twice.

    here's where I need help. because that whole idea makes me feel disgusting and dirty (as well as incredibly embarrassed). everyone that I've talked to has said that he was in the wrong, and made jokes about it being "rapey", but is it really his fault? If I was saying his name, wasn't I encouraging him? because I don't remember any of it, I only have other people's stories to go off of, but every time I think about it, I feel sick. do I need to talk to him about it and confront it, or let it die down and accept that I got too drunk and made a mistake?

    please don't judge my drinking mistakes, I've learnt from the experience and won't be drinking that much again, but please let me know if he's in the wrong.
  2. rabbithabit

    rabbithabit Active Member

    Mar 27, 2017
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    not sure what "snogging" means but sounds like he took you outside for more than just for you to lay down and didn't want to share you with anybody. if he raped you he definitely is in the wrong. but if you aren't offended because you encouraged him to fxck you then drop the issue and move on.
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