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how to be pretty

lydiasings

New Member
so, i'm new here, but i need advice. i don't think i'm that ugly, but i'm by no means pretty. no guys like me, and whenever i call myself ugly my friends don't disagree! i texted this okay looking guy once and pretended to be somebody else for a few minutes, just to mess with him; when he found out that it was me, he totally changed.
what should i do to make myself prettier?
 

sandy brady

Active Member
  1. never define pretty . pretty has soooo many meanings! in the UK its over used, in korea it means cute, in france it means makeupless. u have to tell urself ur pretty or no1 will. believe it and it ll show
  2. never too late to adopt a new look . if ur not happy with anything , u can change it. not happy with curly hair? straighten it. not happy with weight?workout . its U who defines how pretty u feel!
  3. think of what U feel will make U feel pretty, everyone else will accept it.
Take it from me, I used to be absolutely average in everyway! I used to feel unpretty daily. Then i hit 16 and decided I define me. So i sat down and thought of how to make me better. i dont like my curly hair, so i looked for hair styles, hair treatments etc. I dont like my height, i wear heels, i dont like my double chin, i tried (failed) to get rid of it and now i just accept it lol . but when i look in the mirror, i see how much WORSE i could look and it makes me feel like OMG i already look great lets not go there.
You sound young so how guys behave will matter to you at that age, but dont let it define u. Guys themselves will change their attitude as they realise pretty is over rated
 

Twobitgirl

Just a figment
Pretty is so much in how you present yourself. If you have confidence in yourself it shows. Don't let anyone see that you're uncertain or self-conscious; that's not what you want your identity to be about. Be you, own it, love it, and others will too. Not every guy responds to the same things so don't worry about what you think others want and focus on what you want. When you feel good, that's what people will pick up on, and that's what I think is pretty.
 

Rhonda333

Active Member
Sandy and twobit are exactly right. Confidence is everything. It will show. I know so many transgenders who fail in their newly chosen gender because they are constantly haunted by worry over passing. That may be why so many take their own life. I'm successful because I have a lot of confidence. By most standards of beauty I'm a plain Jane- at best. But I don't let that stop me. I'm confident and I let that show, One other bit of advice, good grooming and a nice wardrobe will always boost your confidence. So, go to a beauty shop, try a new hairstyle and then go out and buy a new outfit.
 

Redgirl

Member
I agree with @Rhonda333
Good grooming and a nice wardrobe are terrific confidence boosters! They define your personality and taste and magnify what you're all about. Try different looks if you want and find what clicks with you, but remember it's all about how YOU feel and not somebody else.
 

Janice20

Member
Sandy and twobit are exactly right. Confidence is everything. It will show. I know so many transgenders who fail in their newly chosen gender because they are constantly haunted by worry over passing. That may be why so many take their own life. I'm successful because I have a lot of confidence. By most standards of beauty I'm a plain Jane- at best. But I don't let that stop me. I'm confident and I let that show, One other bit of advice, good grooming and a nice wardrobe will always boost your confidence. So, go to a beauty shop, try a new hairstyle and then go out and buy a new outfit.
I'm completely agree with @Rhonda333 confidence is the key that will make you comfort where ever you go.
 

Christinegirl

Moderator
Staff member
I know it may sound strange what I'm going to say but I would suggest deliberately don't go out of your way to be pretty;
don't wear makeup,
don't wear shoes that are like torture devices (and are bad for our posture - no matter how good they may look),
don't get a boob job/butt implants or have toxins like botox injected under your skin, etc.

Because if a man only likes you/stays with you because you're "pretty", what's to stop him from cheating on you/leaving you for someone who's prettier than you, one day? How can you trust him to be faithful to you if you should ever look different (which we all do, eventually: we might gain/lose weight, get wrinkles, etc.)?

I suggest just be yourself;
have a pleasant disposition,
have good posture,
be clean with nicely brushed hair,
dress nicely,
have a proper diet,
get the proper amount of sleep and exercise,
try not to frown too much,
a "smile on our dial" is an excellent way to look good (as well as having clean teeth),
live a clean/good life so we're not plagued with a guilty conscience, etc.
And most importantly of all, focus on our character, our personality - who we are on the inside.
Then if a man isn't interested in us, that's his loss. It's better to weed out the judgmental, superficial, shallow people - that way we'll have more time to focus on the good guys, the guys we can depend on to be there if we get an illness, if we "lose our looks", etc. :)
 

Rhonda333

Active Member
hmmm, Christine. Can't agree with you dear. I'm for using every bit of technology to help me be as pretty as I can be. Not necessarily to attract men but to enhance how I feel about myself. Why not?
 

Christinegirl

Moderator
Staff member
Because how you feel about yourself has more to do with how "pretty" you look on the inside - how you treat other people, for example. We can be drop dead gorgeous on the outside but we won't feel good about ourselves if we lack character, integrity - if we're not respectful and compassionate towards others.

But I agree: be your best on the outside, too. :)
 

Rhonda333

Active Member
well I guess I don't have to worry about being "drop dead gorgeous" but I do feel good about myself- given the circumstances. Many of my transgender sisters have killed themselves.
 

Christinegirl

Moderator
Staff member
I don't know of too many people who have killed themselves because they felt they weren't pretty.
Those poor transgender people possibly committed suicide because of how they were treated by those who weren't pretty on the inside.
 
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