Hi I'm new to the forum and looked it up for a safe place to talk sometimes talking to my friends I know what they're going to say. I'm currently in a situation with one of my best friends who also happens to be someone I use to see. We haven't dated in almost 2 years and were only seeing each other a few months before it ended. We stayed really good friends after the break up and talk every day. He currently has a new girlfriend and baby. We dont see each other often and obviously haven't seen each other since lockdown. We've been speaking more often seeing as we have both been furloughed during the pandemic so have been messaging sometimes all day if we're not doing anything. Last night he called me and woke me up to say his girlfriend thought something was going on between us and didn't believe we were just friends and wanted to read our messages. He told her no as there are some private conversations about family issues I've been having over the past few weeks. He said that what we spoke about was between us but asked would it be okay if she did read them. I said yes as I didn't want to cause any problems. When I woke up this morning he asked to call again and he informed me that she had left when he got home from the walk he called me on, and had left him with the baby and had not heard from her since. He told me that they had been having issues and arguments alot lately which I knew about but didn't know the extent of it. He said the baby was really the only thing keeping them together and she told him he had to make a decision and that's why she left. I was confused by what decision he was supposed to make and it turns out that she told him he either stops talking to me forever or it's over. I told him to pick her obviously as they have a child together but he said no. He wouldn't make a dec6and couldn't believe she would make him do that. He gave her the same decision to make with her friends that dont like him and she said it wasn't the same. We've been best friends for 2 years now and I get why he doesn't want to give up on that cause we are so close. I've always told him that if she wasnt comfortable with our friendship and how we talk a lot I would understand. But I dont know what to do now. Shes came home now and he said he might be quite for awhile which I 100% understand. I've told him it's okay if this is what he has to do I dont want to ruin a family. I just dont know what to do if he does have to pick her and I lose my best friend hes been there so much for me, I've been sick for about 2 years now and have still to be diagnosed and hes been there for every hospital appointment and every test I've gone for I just dont know what to do if I lose him but know I cant be selfish. Was just wondering if anyone has been in a similar situation and has any advice on what to do?