Answered: Need some help here girls

me and my friend danielle, my best friend who I've known for years, both of us aged 17 arranged to meet at our local J Sainsbury's store about 8.15pm last night so we could go and see Hangover at the cinema but we saw this boy turned up we knew from college called christopher, aged 23 (we've got to know him well at college and he thinks he is our friend) and he was waiting for us in Sainsbury's (he just randomly turned up), we asked him outside Sainsbury's are you coming the cinema and he said dunno then he started walking behind us, up through the town to the cinema, christopher sat in a different seat to us at the cinema and went home on his own.
Should we have minded him coming the cinema with us and should we be friends with him now? (i.e. christopher was not invited to the cinema but we did know him from college).

I think it's fine if you didn't hang out with him at the cinema. He wasn't invited anyways. It's up to you if you want to be friends with him. If he's a good guy, why not?

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Yeah he is a good guy but obv we did hang out with him alittle (he walked to the cinema with us but he sat in a different seat to us in the cinema) but we didn't want to coz I was not invited or me and my friend Danielle didn't like the fact he was with us. When we go to college he does follow us about quite abit and we don't like that. Chris just randomly comes to us and sits with us in the park whist we want a girlie chat.
Should we be friends with him or should we say "no we can't be friends". What shall we do, shall we be friends with Chris or tell him to go away we don't want to see you or be friends with you.

OMG, be his friend if you want to. Why are you asking this? O.o

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Well me and my friend danielle aren't sure whether we want to be his friend or not. Me and Danielle think he's freaky and thats how we describe him to our friends. He is a good guy though, he's always friendly and has a funny laugh. However were not sure whether we want to be friends with him.
He follows us about and stuff like that and he did come cinema with us when we didn't invite him so weren't not sure really whether we ought to be his friend or to say "we can't be friends with you" we don't know what the best thing is and we both feel we need abit of help.

Can you help us decide please?
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Stephxxx

Wait.. you are not comfortable with him? Then say it. Just tell him in a nice way like, "Hey (his name), I really want to be honest to myself and to you, and I hope after I told you this you wouldn't take it negatively. We are not quite comfortable about the things you do. But, I still want to be your friend though. But not that close, friends need space too, you know. So, will it be cool for you if we're not gonna skip the "getting-to-know" part?"

If he takes it as an insult, then don't even try going after him and say sorry. He's not meant for a friend.

Yeah so basically what your saying is that its best to say "we are not quite comfortable about the things you do but, I still want to be your friend although not that close as friends need space too".
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what do you mean, please explain more clearly what you meant by "So, will it be cool for you if we're not gonna skip the "getting-to-know" part?"

Hmm, if you're not comfortable with him around, maybe you can tell him 'please don't follow us' or something like that. He is older than you and your friend. He should understand this.

I think I understand what you mean now. If he keeps following you, stop talking to him for a while. Try not to talk to him everytime you see him. He'll get the message that way.

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Yeah but should we be his friend though, he is older than us and me and my friend find that and him following us about abit scary, abit freaky. The fact that he wears girls clothes, has a funny laugh but generally friendly and harmless were not sure whether we ought to be friends with him or not. He did come cinema with us when he wasn't invited and we didn't like it, he does follow us about and stuff but were still unsure about whether to be friends with him or not, should we be his friend, is it a good or bad idea?

firstly i always find that girls are more bitches then boys. i dont know if you ever noticed? but its true.

secondly he might be looking out for you girls
so yeah you should hang around with him, if you feel pretected,
with him. and you never know he might be a good friend.

i hope this should help you x