ooook, heres a little taste of my life. I have a great family, great friends, a great boyfriend, and just a great life. But, i also have many problems. A lot of stress for finals, high school next year, my dad leaving and going to saudi arabia, cuz hes in the marine corps and hes being sent there to train the Saudi Marines; DRAMA!!!!!!!!!! (hate it), and more stress and more drama. My best friend loves my boyfriend, yeah, it really sucks. i feel bad, but i love him, and im not gonna give him up. Luckily my best friend doesn't blame me, even if she's extremely jealous of me. People even at my church are starting rumors. And it sucks, cuz theres a great guy at my church that i have a small, small crush on, and i feel bad about it. and he liked me too until he found out i had a bf. then he asked out another who i hate, but he doesnt know that. and, well, i explained pretty much whats up with my dad up there. hes leaving sunday. this sunday... and as for stress, many finals, way to many. it sucks. And im going into high school next year. My life is crazy right now. Ive never had this much (bad) stuff going on and its totally overwhelming. I just need to vent sometimes. And its a plus if someone helps me with my problems. Thanks! Ily!
P.S. If you read my first post, told ya i make long posts

here are some of my suggestion:
about your dad -- treasure your time with him, be a good girl
about your friendship -- dont worry too much, if they are really your friend, they shouldnt make you sad
about your study -- work hard on it, this should be your priority in this age, good luck in your final!

Nee-Chan to the rescue!!~

Sounds like your having a really tough time! When I find myself in such situations, i ussually take a few hours to relax and think things through, and make some short term goals to help me get through things as best I can. Its good to have something to focus on when your stressed, that way when your getting frustrated you can always think back to what your goals where and you can focus on them and make it through that stressful period.

I would be thinking about spending as much time as you can with father! I was also a military brat, and lived in like 13 different states, including Alaska! My dad would leave for up to 9 months at a time from places like Saudi Arabia all the way to Korea! I was probably a little too young to be majorly effected by it, but I remember how my mom must has felt when she had to watch him leave, so i remember I tried my best to conformt my mom, and that got us a lot closer. That might be something you might want to try! Talk to you mom about things and when you ask her if shes ok, and comfort her, she'll notice your worried about your dad too, and return the favor. No one comforts like mom!

As for you boy troubles, DON'T LET YOUR FRIEND GET TOO CLOSE!! There are certain situations where you have to make the choice between a good friend, or a great relationship. I've lost a lot of friends due to similar experiences, and all I can tell you is you need to figure out which you treasure more, because, if in the end they end up together, you'll have lost a friend and a boyfriend!! Try to stay in control of situations and keep your boy under your thumb.

This is another area i would start setting goals to get through your stress! Focus on your tests and try not to let the fact your dad is leaving soon stress you in school! Set a goal for each test, focus on your work, and study hard!!

Hope that helps hun.

EDIT: Aww man! This was last week! [/toolate]

Hi, Joshgirl! You sound quite young - mid-teens, maybe? That doesn't mean to say you suffer any less stress than anyone older, but at your age everything is so intense ... believe me when I say things improve as you get older - although you'll start stressing about different things!

Shame about your dad going away, it's really hard on the families of dads (and moms) serving in the forces. You sound like you're really close to him and what with everything else going on in your life maybe you feel it's all getting too much.

I agree with Nee-Chan. Don't let your friends niggle you! Although you might want to consider whether you are really, truly in love with your bf especially as you say you have a little crush on someone else. That's no bad thing - at your age you're allowed to have as many crushes as you like!

Work hard at your studies - you only get these chances once in life so do all you can to make sure your future is set for great things - and make your dad proud! And as Nee-Chan says, get close to your mom - girl power counts for a lot!

thanks you guys. i made it through everything. ive been busy so i havent been able to get on really. but all the help is great! =]
and yes, i am young, and its a very drama-ish time. oh well, ill have to live through it.
and i talked to my mom and grandma, and i kinda figured out the problem with my friend. she always has little blowups, where she just freaks out and acts like its my fault. and i actually believe her and let her walk all over me. so im not gonna let her do that anymore and hopefully things will get better =] wish me luck

Aww, I'm glad things are going okay for you again! Don't worry too much about stress- it comes and it goes. The way i always looked at my troubles was by saying to myself, "It could always be worse." And indeed it could. It makes every problem you have, rather small in comparison. Relationships come and go, high school will come and go, so long as you relax, settle your mind, and just focus on the good things going on in your life.

Just live each moment as it comes, but make you sure you have certain objectives that you really focus on, such as your school career. That is your job now so make sure you do it well.

As for having a crush, even older people have crushes on other people, but it's what you do about it is important. Make sure you don't betray your boyfriend by getting involved with this other guy or even letting him know how you feel. Sorry he went out with the girl you don't like (I don't think you really hate her). That's just life.

You know what? I am currently living in Saudi Arabia (well moving OT,)
I agree with Beryl, follow those steps.
And about your best friend, just go to your boyf and ask him if he'll ever leave you, and make him promise u that he won't leave u and tell him you love him

to be happy

always make thinking of good idea & leave the sad

I live in iraq which is the worst place becauce of the wars but I AM ALWAYS HAPPY

Me too gurl