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I guess thats where we need education on safe sex and protecting yourself.

Not a lot of things in this world is 100% of a sure thing.. But using a condoms is the best form of protection we have against STD and STI if we were to choose to have sex. Combining that with another form contraception ie. the pill, depo shot, the rod etc. It would lessen the chance of pregnancy. Thus lessening the chance of needing an abortion.

Only if you choose to keep the pregnancy. Every action you take has consequences. Its just a matter of arming youself with as much information as you can to make a well educated decision about the things you do before you do it.

Just going off what BiGirl said in her latest post about couples who are in a committed relationship.

My partner and I have been together now for 3-4years we've been living together for 2years. We love each other, have a joint bank account and today we're looking for a cat together... The only thing that is missing is a ring and a silly piece of paper.... Does this mean that its wrong for us to have sex? To share the most intimate part of ourselves with each other? The most personal meaningful way to say I love you? Hmm??

Bloody awesome post Devina! You really made me dust off the cobwebs in my brain with that one girl!! I love this thread..

He he Melgo,You have a strong defend *coughs*..

I totally agree with Melgo and BiGirl...If you are together with your partner for long years (like 2-3 years)..Then you are allowed to have sex.And let's just say,You had it very safe and with protection...and then here's the twist;If Your partner leaves you after 2 months (for some situations?) ,Then I'll bet you'll regret it for sharing your personal spots with some one is not yours anymore....Now what? Tell your mom?..

And when the time comes for your wedding (or marraige),no guy will accept you cuz you just lose your verginity (Not all guys,but few ). And once you lose it,It's very hard for you to find yourself a guy.
I know,this generation is very mordanised and all...but there are still few more guys who wants their girls to be virgin. ^_^

Anyway......Melgo,you're an awesome defender! rawrrr <3

Thanks Devina... I love a good debate

Bleh!! Yet again,You're an awesome defender...! <3

I didn't read this entire thread but one thing caught my eye about guys expecting women to be virgins - um, what time period are you living in? That is so medieval of you and it's really belittling to our entire gender to go along with thinking like that. No one expects guys to be virgins, instead they are expected to have experience. There shouldn't be double standards like that and it's ridiculous. Sex isn't the most important thing in a relationship but it surely ranks high on the list. Why would you want to wait and risk finding out that you are completely incompatible in bed?

I say save it. I waited til I was married and I have no problems. I don't wonder what it's like to be with anyone else because I love my husband. I like the fact that we can learn and be open and free to try new things with each other.

One problem I see with waiting for marriage is the pressure that is on you on your wedding night. When my boyfriend and I started having sex, it took a while to get comfortable. We didn't just have sex, it took a while to get comfortable with each other in such an intimate way, and we worked up to it slowly.

It is expected that when you wait for marriage, you have sex on the night you are married. Sex can be painful the first time, and if this is the first time you are in this intimate setting with the other person, it can be uncomfortable. I think it puts a lot of pressure on both partners to do something they may not be ready to do yet. I think sex is something that should progress naturally to be enjoyed. I don't think anybody should have to have sex on that night even if they don't want to. You really don't know how you will feel about it until you are in that situation.

With that said, I think that everybody should make the right decision for themselves. If sex before marriage works for you, I think that's what you should do. If you feel comfortable waiting for marriage, go for it.

Bravo!! Well said Janelle... Each to their own

QUOTE FROM LADY DEVINE
"I didn't read this entire thread but one thing caught my eye about guys expecting women to be virgins - um, what time period are you living in? That is so medieval of you and it's really belittling to our entire gender to go along with thinking like that. No one expects guys to be virgins, instead they are expected to have experience. There shouldn't be double standards like that and it's ridiculous. Sex isn't the most important thing in a relationship but it surely ranks high on the list. Why would you want to wait and risk finding out that you are completely incompatible in bed?

Too bloody true!! Someone else said that you gotta try before you buy right?? Would want to end up with faulty goods.

And in response to whether or not id be happy letting my non existant son marry or date a girl who isn't a virgin?? Of course Id be ok with it. Virginity doesn't determine the heart and intentions of a person. Promiscuity might, but not virginity.